The infamous “They” prescribe various methods of obtaining
the one thing we all desire, “happiness”
You may have in your life found yourself in the position of
the ‘advice giver’ on what will make the ‘recipient’ happy but as I always say everyone
needs something to believe in.
Some find it in the small things in life, some in morals and
beliefs and some in living without morals and beliefs, others find it in
structure and planning. And others still in material gain and wealth.
Many of us may have tried one or more of these methods of
finding happiness, and many still trying.
A select few have found it and are living in Alaska ………
I believe that happiness is individual, not black and white
but customized to our own special shades to create the kaleidoscope that make
up our souls.
There is however the argument that because we all have the
same basic needs: love, belonging, purpose, value and food. We are all to find them in the same places.
I think that we are individuals and even though we are made
up of the same meat suit, contents differ, some more than others.
For example of my favorite needs that contribute a large
percentage to my happiness is food.
My friend and I have some time ago discovered Mac Donald’s
Cup a Cake
I loved the caramel but she preferred the chocolate and
though we both loved it we didn’t have each other’s. My best friend and I both
like fish she prefers hers slightly more cooked with less salt, more vinegar and
no skin at times.
The same applies to our other needs
We express ourselves differently.
We find belonging in different places and purpose in different
ways.
For me, love is in the prickly feeling of his stubble under
my finger tips that always makes me giggle no matter how sad I feel. And the snoring
of my daughter at night when her dreams have carried her away.
I find purpose in cleaning after the family and then
complaining about it loudly, and making coffee,
for some explainable reason.
And belonging or Home, well I see glimpses of it sometimes,
when they walk in front of me holding hands, or when she plants her 7 year old
kiss firmly on his cheeks when she has to say goodbye, and the 5 year old,
makes the inherited evil eye and goes right back to playing, or when she holds
onto her sisters hand like they are headed in the some direction somehow.
But that’s just me, at the end of it all. The colors that
make up the pictures of our souls are all different and so are the brushes that
they are panted with and canvases they are placed on.
No matter where or how or when you find your happiness when
you do, it is nothing you can compare to that of another. Though you may share
the same experience, you experience it differently.
So if you haven’t found yours yet and even those who have, don’t
compare it to anyone else’s or tell someone else how they could possibly find
theirs using your methods.
As I always say we all need something to believe in so
always hold on to what it is you believe.
In this case I believe that only one person can live your
happiness.
Leonie A 02 Jul 13
